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Friendships/Relationships Videos

Being a Friend: What Does it Mean?
(1995) 21 minutes (gr 5-9)

Involved with their peers as never before and probably as never again, young adolescents find problems of acceptance and rejection loom large in their lives. Program raises thought -provoking issues connected to building healthy friendships, working out typical conflicts, and recognizing the difference between constructive and destructive friendships. Questions designed to encourage discussion follow each scenario. Grade level: 5-9

Big Changes, Big Choices - Dealing with Pressures
30 minutes (Grade 5-9)

Becoming a teenager brings a batch of new pressures. This program explores positive, healthful ways for young adolescents to cope with it all. Video discussion guide included. Grade level: 5-9

Big Changes, Big Choices - Friendship
30 minutes (Grade 5-9)

In early adolescence, issues of friendship become a very big deal. This program looks at good & bad friendships, trouble and change in friendships, cliques, clubs, and why it's hurtful to exclude others. Video discussion guide included. Grade level: 5-9

Big Changes, Big Choices - You and Your Values
30 minutes (Grade 5-9)

This program explores personal identity by looking at values, beliefs, behaviors, appearances, and that all important adolescent issue of "fitting in." Video discussion guide included. Grade level: 5-9

Building Healthy Relationships
(2002) 18 minutes 

How do youngsters know when they are in a healthy relationship? Do they know how to stand up for themselves and their values? Can they communicate their feelings clearly and effectively? These important questions will be answered in their hands-on workshop designed to teach youngsters the life skills that will help them build and maintain healthy relationships.

Dangerous Relationships
30 minutes 

Young people need clear, self-affirming guidelines to understand their choices when a relationship turns unhealthy or destructive. Through a series of dramatizations, viewers see a "blueprint" of an unhealthy relationship between a young couple as it grows progressively more intense. Topics include the early danger signs to watch for, such as irrational jealousy, violent outbursts, emotional manipulation, physical intimidation and physical abuse. Grade level: 8-12

Decision Skills Action Pack: Picking the Right Friends
(1999) 20 minutes 

Gives students valuable criteria to use when evaluating their commitments. It teaches the difference between good and bad character traits, how to recognize wrong motives, and how to sense unbalanced values. Encourages viewers to seek acquaintances who are generous rather than selfish, helpful rather than hurtful, and who will join with them in showing respect for each other. Grade level: 2-6

Double Trouble: Peer Pressure
(2000) 18 minutes (gr 3-5)

When children desperately want to fit in with their peers, they may do things they either know are wrong or feel uncomfortable about - leading them into harmful situations. This engaging video uses a Turn-a-Page animation book and a Peer Pressure Quiz to help kids learn to resist peer pressure and make positive choices for themselves. Grade level: 3-5

Getting Along 1: How Does It Feel?
15 minutes (Grade Pre-3)

Explores the connection between body language and emotions, considers what triggers particular emotions, and teaches youngsters how to express their feelings to others. Features Grandpa's Face by Eloise Greenfield.

Getting Along 2: It's Mine!
15 minutes (Grade Pre-3)

Illustrates situations in which there is an opportunity to share, explains how it feels when someone doesn't share, and demonstrates negotiation strategies for sharing. Features Jamaica's Blue Marker by Juanita Havill.

Getting Along 3: Left Out!
15 minutes (Grade Pre-3)

Describes situations in which exclusion often occurs, discusses how it feels to be excluded, and presents behaviors that increase the likelihood of inclusion. Features Nick Joins In by Joe Lasker.

Getting Along 4: Don't Make Me Stop This Car!
15 minutes (Grade Pre-3)

Demonstrates behavior that is annoying or bothersome, explores how it feels to be bugged by someone, and teaches strategies, including I-statements, for dealing with conflict. Features Get Lost, Laura! by Jennifer Northway.

Getting Along 5: My Way
15 minutes (Grade Pre-3)

Examines bossy behavior, identifies feelings and conflicts that can result from bossiness, and reveals positive ways for kids to deal with bossy people. Features King of the Playground by Phyllis Reynolds Naylor.

Getting Along 6: No Fair!
15 minutes (Grade Pre-3)

Exhibits unfair circumstances, explains how it feels to be treated unfairly, and presents rules that can make situations more fair. Features Tops & Bottoms by Janet Stephens.

Getting Along 7: Grrrr!
15 minutes (Grade Pre-3)

Explores situations that can result in anger, describes how it feels to be angry, and illustrates appropriate methods for dealing with anger. Features Mean Soup by Betsy Everitt.

I Had it First! Learning to Share
13 minutes (K-2)

Rhyming events in the life of Katy O'Hare, a little girl who "just wouldn't share," to help the youngest students recognize the importance of sharing. Grade level: K-2

I'm Not Everybody - Helping Your Child Stand up to Peer Pressure
(1989) 12 minutes 

"I'm Not Everybody!" offers practical ways parents can help children prepare for and deal with pressure from their friends. Parents who implement these suggestions will find their boy or girl less likely to "go along with the crowd" to gain approval.

Kelly Bear Teaches About Resolving Disputes
(2005) 25 minutes (Gr K-4)

Children learn communication and mediation skills such as listening, empathy, and impartiality that assist them in helping themselves and peers settle disagreements peacefully. Ground rules and steps that student helpers can follow are explained and demonstrated in a clear, easy-to-use manner.

Kelly Bear Teaches Respectfulness and Friendship Skills
(1998) 19 minutes 

Children learn to respect themselves and others, use self-control, be empathetic, and act in a kind way when someone is distressed. Grade level: K-2

Kelly Bear Teaches Social Competence and Positive Behaviors
(1998) 21 minutes 

Children learn that everyone makes mistakes, to engage in acceptable behaviors and to accept responsibility for their actions. Truthfulness and dependability are emphasized. Grade level: K-2

Let's Make Up: Learning about Forgiveness
(2003) 18 minutes 

Through vignettes and music, young children see the benefits of being able to forgive and move on without holding a grudge. Grade level: K-2.

Life Lessons: That's What Friends Are For
(1994) 15 minutes (K-5)

Friends can act as a safety net when we occasionally slip and fall. They can also expose us to new and exciting things. In this video we introduce young viewers to the importance and value of friends and the social skills necessary to make friends and keep them. Grade level: K-5

LifeSteps with Michael Pritchard: Developing Healthy Relationships
(2003) 28 minutes (Grade 6-12)

Healthy relationships are fundamental to emotional well-being. In this program, teens learn to build their own personal support system, recognize true friends, and develop positive refusal skills. The video emphasizes the importance of trust and caring in successful relationships and highlights the critical skill of negotiating with parents. Part of the 12-part LifeSteps Video Series. Leader's guide included. For grades 6-12. Hosted by Teen Counselor Michael Pritchard.

LifeSteps with Michael Pritchard: Getting Along with Others
(2003) 28 minutes (Grade 6-12)

In this program, teens discover positive ways to assert themselves, express complaints, handle misunderstandings and block rumors. They learn specific social skills - mediation, negotiation, active listening, and messages - and how to apply these skills to cooperative-learning groups and student-led activities. Part of the 12-part LifeSteps Video Series. Leader's guide included. Hosted by Teen Counselor Michael Pritchard. For grades 6-12.

Male and Female: Respecting Each Other
18 minutes 

Realistic dramatizations show common ways male and females negatively communicate without realizing they are hurting each other. Effective sequences stress acceptance of peers and partners as equals entitled to different wants, needs and desires. The harmful effects of sexual harassment are discussed. It is emphasized that the right to hurt your self-esteem, and that there are ways to communicate so we can understand and respect each other.

Male and Female: Stereotyping Hurts
20 minutes 

Vignettes of high school social interaction provide a framework for the discussion of the influence of stereotypes in daily life. Throughout the video, the hosts use scenes to comment on the effects of stereotypes and discuss ways to improve their relationships.

Male and Female: Trust and Honesty
22 minutes 

Ryan has a problem with jealousy; Nadine can't face losing Matt's affection; Matt doesn't want to tell her the truth; Martin lies to Kelly about his finances. In every relationship there are times when we must make choices between hiding our feelings or expressing them honestly. Effective dramatizations illustrate how practicing concern for the other person can pave the way for more trusting relationships. Viewers will learn how using these principles also promote greater feelings of self worth.

Popularity: What's the Price?
22 minutes (gr 5-8)

While most middle schoolers want desperately to be thought of as "popular," few think about the price of getting into or remain in the "popular crowd." Follow the story of four young teens as they grapple with the issues arising from the dynamics of popularity. Grade level: 5-9

Power of Choice - Coping with Pressures
30 minutes (Grade 9-12)

How to handle pressure in ways that have constructive, not destructive, outcomes. Grade level: 9-12

Power of Choice: Friendship and Dating
30 minutes (High School)

In this program, host Michael Pritchard and high school students in Detroit, Wichita, Brooklyn, and Gainesville, Florida take a heartwarming look at how to create and maintain quality relationships. They identify the ingredients of good friendships, consider how their own actions affect those friendships, examine the dynamics and expectations of romantic and dating relationships, and discuss how these relationships change as we grow up. As one boy in Brooklyn said, "When I started dating, my Mom told me to treat girls the way I'd want boys to treat my sister." Pritchard's response: "You have a great mother."

Real People - Cliques: Who�s In, Who�s Out
(1996) 24 minutes (Gr 5-8)

The pressure to be popular can cause teens to do or say anything to stay �in� with their peers. Using true-to-life scenarios, program explores the nature of cliques, focusing on the kinds of group dynamics that cause heartache and anxiety. Grade level 5-8

Sometimes Friends Mean Trouble
(2004) 15 minutes (gr 3-5)

All children face a time when friends try to pressure, belittle, or shame them into doing something they think is wrong. Help youngsters recognize these situations and develop strategies to handle them. Grade level: 3-5

(2004) 41 minutes (ages 4-10)

Baby bat Stellaluna's life is flitting along right on schedule--until an owl attacks her mother one night, knocking the bewildered batlet out of her mother's loving grasp. The tiny bat is lucky enough to land in a nest of baby birds, but her whole world has just turned upside down. Literally. Stellaluna's adoptive bird mom accepts her into her nest, but only on the condition that Stellaluna will act like a bird, not a bat. Soon Stellaluna has learned to behave like a good bird should. But when she finally has an opportunity to show her bird siblings what life as a bat is like, all of them are confounded. "How can we be so different and feel so much alike?" one asks. "And how can we feel so different and be so much alike?" Anyone who has ever been asked to be someone they're not will understand the conflicts--and possibilities--Stellaluna faces. This gorgeously illustrated book is sure to be an all-time favorite with readers, whether they've left the nest or not.

Suppose That Was Me?
(2000) 25 minutes 

Middle schoolers are at an age when they typically judge others harshly, have rapidly shifting friendships, spread rumors and sometimes demonstrate a lack of empathy for people. This program asks viewers to discuss how they would feel if they were made a target by other students. Grade level: 5-9

The Value of Being a Friend
15 minutes (gr 1-6)

Friendships are a very special part of life. They help us grow as a person, because they involve trust, respect, caring, and sharing. It requires effort to make friends, to keep friends, and above all, to be a friend. The videos "Friendship" song carries its special message.

The Value of Teamwork
15 minutes 

With the help of his talking dog, Einstein, Max learns about teamwork and how to be a good team player. Einstein explains the value of teamwork and the importance of a cooperative attitude at school, at home, and at play.

What's Cool? The Popularity Game
20 minutes 

This video follows one boy and one girl through a typical day at middle school, showing the many interactions that can make students feel either great or uneasy about themselves. Wanting to be popular and conforming to the peer group is simply part of the middle schooler's normal struggle to begin establishing independence from parents.

When Friends Mean Trouble
(1998) 19 minutes (gr 5-8)

For young teens, "trouble" with friends can mean anything from physical danger to emotional turmoil. Specifically designed to get young teens talking, each fast-paced vignette acts as a trigger to spur discussion about friendship - a subject teens might be reluctant to address. Ages: 10-14

When It's Hard to be a Friend
(1999) 12 minutes (gr 3-5)

Friends are important to a child's growth, but children often find it hard to cope when a friend hurts their feelings, pressures them to do something they don't want to do or moves away. A series of vignettes illustrating difficulties with friends, each followed by thought-provoking questions, provide students with opportunities to discuss their own experiences and feelings about friendship. Grade level: 3-5

Winnie the Pooh: Making Friends
(1998) 48 minutes 

In Cloud, Cloud, Go Away, Tigger makes friends with a lonely cloud and then Tigger's House Guest turns out to be a hungry termite! In The Bug Stops Here, Christopher Robin discover an irresistible insect, and Tigger Is the Mother of Invention proves good work is its own reward, especially for Piglet!

Working Together 1: The "In" Crowd
15 minutes (Grade 4-6)

Confronts the problems that arise from exclusion, emphasizes the importance of listening to different perspectives, and suggests strategies for encouraging inclusion. Features The Pain and the Great One by Judy Blume.

Working Together 2: You Bug Me!
15 minutes (Grade 4-6)

Identifies the range of emotions created by bothersome and annoying situations, considers the feelings of both the victim and the bully, and explores healthy ways to handle conflict. Features Angel Child, Dragon Child by Michele Maria Surat.

Working Together 3: Do It My Way
15 minutes (Grade 4-6)

Considers how it feels to be bossed around, explains how bossiness can lead to conflict, and demonstrates the use of negotiation to reach an agreeable solution. Features Bootsie Barker Bites by Barbara Bottner.

Working Together 4: He Said, She Said
15 minutes (Grade 4-6)

Describes the feelings that result from anger and misunderstandings, identifies behaviors that create conflict, and models such strategies as I-statements for improving communication. Features The Hating Book by Charlotte Zolotow.

Working Together 5: That's Not Right!
15 minutes (Grade 4-6)

Examines conflicts surrounding the issue of fairness, considers how it feels to be treated unfairly, and explores solutions for dealing with unfair situations. Features Fair Is Fair: World Folktales of Justice by Sharon Creeden.

Working Together 6: Everybody Knows�
15 minutes (Grade 4-6)

Deals with issues of prejudice and stereotyping, explains why prejudice is harmful, and discusses ways to reduce and overcome prejudice. Features Molly's Pilgrim by Barbara Cohen.

You Can Choose: Being Friends
(1992) 29 minutes (Grade K-5)

Rhonda, Missie and Fiona discover the complex nature of friendship and deal with what it means to be left out. Children learn about the value of having good friends and what makes good friendships. Grade level: K-5

Your Child's Friendships: The Good Times...The Bad Times
(2000) 35 minutes (k-5)

Children's friendships are sources of both joy and pain, not only for children, but for parents as well. Developing and keeping friends is essential to a child's sense of well being. This video gives parents practical techniques to help their children develop vital friendship-building skills. Grade level: K-5

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